How to prepare your child for a new baby
Talk honestly, in words that fit their age, and keep telling them you will love them just as much. The American Academy of Pediatrics also suggests reading books about babies and siblings together.
What helps at each age
A summary of advice from the American Academy of Pediatrics.
| Ages 1 to 2 | Ages 2 to 4 | Ages 5 and up | |
|---|---|---|---|
| Before the birth | Read books about babies so the words become familiar | Be honest about crying and attention, show their baby photos, and plan together | Explain what will change, and let them help get ready |
| After the birth | Plan one-on-one time | Set aside special time, and ask visitors to include them | Give them a role, and spend time alone with them each day |
What's normal afterward
Going backwards is common. A toilet-trained child may have accidents or ask for a bottle, and the AAP describes this as their way of checking they still have your love. Give them the attention they're asking for, and praise grown-up moments.
If you're worried about how your child is coping, talk to your pediatrician or family doctor.
Where a personalized book fits
A book won't do this alone, and library books about new babies are free. A book made for your child adds three things:
- They are the hero, and they see themselves being a good big sibling.
- It uses your family's details, like the baby's name, a pet, or who will look after them during the hospital stay.
- It can be read in your voice, if you record about a minute before the birth.
Questions parents ask
When should I tell my child about the new baby?
There is no set date. For preschoolers, the AAP suggests using natural moments, such as when you buy baby clothes or when they ask about a growing belly.
Is it normal for my older child to act younger?
Yes. The AAP says accidents or asking for a bottle are normal, and are a child's way of checking they still have your love and attention.
How do I reduce jealousy?
Involve them in planning before the birth, invite them to help afterward, and set aside regular time just for them.
Can I print the book?
Yes. A softcover or hardcover can be ordered, with the price shown before you pay. Leave extra time for delivery if your due date is close.
